“ … I am the carrier of a tribe given to passions, a mass, almost ritual intoxication. Men are in charge, women are subordinate and mean – as if that is their revenge. Homes are dirty, every one of them has a secluded weapon, and close relations are mainly used for missunderstandings and hatred!”
Vidosav Stevanovic, “The Testament”
Lilith in Cancer represents the Grand Mother, the Protector. Family is very important for people with this position of Lilith. The hereditary scheme is very pronounced, the genetic code through the female side – the maternal. These people have good memories, particularly regarding their childhood, their ancestors, parents, school days.
But perhaps the most frustrations are given by Lilith thus positioned. Family secrets surely exist, abandoned children, suffering women, dying at childbirth, slain and raped (Sharon Tate, wife of Roman Polanski, that was killed while pregnant in the massacre of Manson’s gang in her house has LI in Cancer), many vices – especially alcohol (Hendrix, Janis Joplin), houses that are lost, burned, stolen. Those are the events that make a person feel like a stranger in his own family so in his youth he wants only to leave as soon as he can.
With his family and relatives he meets only when someone is in trouble or not even then, while in times of peace relationships can be hard, cold – usually from others toward this person, which is what makes him feel betrayed and deserted by the people closest to him. This is a difficult position that brings suffering and torture always because of someone very close, someone who is under the same roof as this person, whether it is an ill parent, a problematic child or a drunken husband. Here, the relationship of the person with his mother is very important, whether he has one or whether she has (which is frequently the case) died or is living somewhere far away. The mother will sooner or later, through her action, words or deeds hurt the person, make it vulnerable and simultaneously dangerous for any one in the future who betrays his love and dedication. This is the reason men lose their faith in women early on, they get disappointed several times and in their mature years usually have many women in their past. These are people that fear loneliness more than anything and if they do not find what they are looking for in the first half of their life, they go to the extreme and make themselves absolutely unavailable for the emotions of other people, condemning themselves to being lonely and rejected. There is a big capacity here to be forthcoming to the desires of others, to help others, to be useful, but they themselves are incapable of accepting other people’s help. They regularly reject in advance the possibility of accepting help, ready to give but not to accept. Their behaviour attracts and ties to them people with similar needs that can later burden them with their possessive behaviour. The soul is calling on a certain kind of psychic torture from the immediate environment, so women often chose men that will strike fear in their bones, that they will dread and live in teror of . And it will go on until the moment the aversion to being down and subdued, as under the family authority awakens, that once forced them to go away and leave everything, and they will do it again. They sever ties and relationships radically since they abhore true commitment. The first pregnancy often ends in abortion. As mothers these women are more cold and on a distance with their children, they reject breastfeeding them and they do not give touch, they do not cuddle and show emotions, but instead strive to teach them to be resilient, persistent, disciplined and their own. And all of this because they know that these children will one day leave them and go their own way.
In a sexual relationship there are frequent misunderstandings and uncertainties because of their irrationaly strong fear of rejection. As there were sexual scandals in the past of the family, dramatic situations are a regular occurence here, in more difficult cases there are many threats and dangers within the home and family. Here only drama can activate the long suppressed libido. Otherwise, women will gladly give pleasure to others, while they will deny it to themselves, while men will sooner opt for “easy” women, prostitutes, relationships of which they are sure that not even the slightest hint of emotions will appear ( Larry Flynt, owner of “Hustler” and a big pornographic house).
This position of Lilith can bring certain problems with inheritance or apartments. Wholeheartedly helping others this person gains surreal strength. On the other hand, it will always be dissatissfied and bitter because it gives more than it receives. The soul is soaked in suffering and fear, especially of losing people close to her over which she daily thinks and fears, which was best described by E.M.Remark that has Lilith positioned here. This position is good for the media and brings popularity and fame.
Yuriy Gagarin has this position, John Wayne, Humphrey Bogart, Steffi Graff, Bobby Fisher, Catherine Zeta-Jones, as well as the famous talk show anchor, Larry King that ascended to fame by provoking his guests, reminding them of the most vulnerable moments of their lives, Branko Miljkovic, Frederico Garcia Lorka, Douglas Adams, Damon Hill.